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Maybe that was a negative way to start. See, I'm a wedding photographer, so for the last 13 years I've thought about weddings everyday of my life. Try doing the dating apps when you bring up weddings after 5 minutes. I've also been obsessed with losing weight for the best part of 30 years...ever since a girl at school asked me what was wrong with my big knees.

I used to feel like a "future thin person" stuck in a fat body. And that meant I put off everything until I lost weight. And weddings are a one time (hopefully) thing, so of course, I'd want to be "the best version of myself" for my own wedding.

The good news is, I don't feel like that any more. And it wasn't the love of a good man that changed me. It was me. And a whole lot of mindset work and coaching.

One day I realised just how much living I had missed out on waiting to be thin. And that it was my thoughts about my body, not my body itself, that was the problem.

So, when I met my fiance, my first thought wasn't, "am I too fat for him?" it was, "do I like this man?" When he proposed, my first thought was, "of course," not, "the diet starts Monday," and when I was pinned into a size 12 wedding dress as a size 24, my first thought was, "how is this size inclusive?" not, "I have to lose weight."

That's not to say the wedding industry hasn't thrown every diet culture nightmare at me - as you'll know if you're planning your own wedding - but my self-worth and body image are so strong, that I'm just fired up to find wedding suppliers who deserve my custom and are genuinely good people.

Which is why you're here, right? I've crowd-sourced recommendations for genuinely size inclusive/fat positive wedding suppliers, who aren't going to make promises they can't keep or sneakily tell you to make yourself smaller. The Fat Bride Wedding Directory is made up of suppliers recommended by real couples only. They can't pay to be included or nominate themselves.

And you might also be here because wedding planning is highlighting that your body image isn't where you want it to be. You're feeling the pressure to diet, you're dreading buying a wedding outfit, or you're considering not having photos because the idea of seeing yourself is too much. Then my body image coaching can help you. Yes, for your wedding, but also for your whole damn life.